Declarative Poetic Narrative (DPN): about: Child Physical and Sexual Abuse
This week there was a major child porn bust. I am reminded that our society is riddled with child physical and sexual abuse and other forms of sexual violence. These atrocities are committed daily across Canada. We as a society turn a blind eye to the obvious. We have done this throughout several eras in contemporary society.
Yesterday I posted this quote about the issue on my Facebook status:
“Welcome to Canada.
In my experience, and the experience of countless people both historically and contemporarily, we Canadians are a culture of child abuse, sexual assault, racism and patriarchy. This is merely one example of a current example of the deep roots of a collective of abuser and many are Canadians.
We need to openly discuss and have public conversations about these issues in order to teach future generations to speak up about these issues, even when it is undesirable.
Many of these abusers are your coworkers, teachers, neighbours, friends, family members and local authorities. Child abuse should not be swept under a rug and dismissed like it so often is.
This one collective is not even comparable to the individual atrocities committed within our neighbourhoods every day.
I have not and will never forget how many children, including myself, are silenced by fear, intimidation, and emotional coercion to be silent in order to protect abusers. Our laws, policies and authorities all to often protect the abuser and blame the victim, among many other dismissive tactics that silence people.
We are a nation that systemically condones child sexual abuse as we do not punish those in power effectively when they commit these acts unless of course it is a high profile case. More often than not our society is functionally ineffective when it comes to child protection issues relating to abuse.
We are a disgusting society that is all to often apathetic and dismissive when it comes to child abuse and child sexual abuse; rape and other related atrocities.
Something to ponder:
How many people on my friends list have been aware of at least one person in their social circle who was raped or abused, or solidly suspected of these crimes, and did little to nothing about it, and then detach from any accountability?
Why is it that we as a culture accept these sick social dynamics (both personally and professionally, while an ineffective system is left to handle these situations)?
Children are the ones we should be protecting first…but we do not because we are a nation of harbouring secrets.”
In consideration of that I have gone into my Declarative Poetic Narrative (DPN) archive and pull out these two DPN. However, I am including two separate versions of one of the pieces. These pieces represent the damage done to a child who suffer physical and sexual abuse, while also have suffered the witnessing of sexual violence committed against my mother.
Also I will provide you with this link to a previous blog post, which is one of my favourite DNPs; and here is the audio version. Here is a piece on ending violence against women; and the audio to go along with it. And this last piece is about how sexual violence sticks.
I hope we can create more safe spaces for children to talk about what is going on for them without feeling ashamed or afraid. At minimum as a man I hope that I make it safe for other men to talk about the abuses they have suffered safely, this way we can work towards not being abusers of other human beings.